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Leaving a narcissist

 "Every psychopath is narcissistic but not every narcissistic is a psychopath." There is a key difference, a narcissist is somebody who lacks empathy, is grandiose, is entitled, is constantly seeking validation, is arrogant. It's a disorder of self esteem and they have trouble regulating their self esteem. What it's like to split up with a Narcissist  Leaving any relationship is difficult but leaving a narcissistic relationship seems to be harder. Many times people leave narcissistic relationships from a place of frustration, exasperation, fear, confusion. In a narcissistic relationship, by the time you get to the breakup point there have been lies, deceit, anger, rage all kinds of negative situations and it's confusing. Now, a couple of other things happen too. Many times when people leave a narcissistic relationship, they've tried everything. They've tried to change the person, which obviously never gonna work but they keep trying. One of the big fears t
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Signs of a Pathological Liar

 Signs of a Pathological Liar I am so glad you're here. Today I want to talk about lying and give you some more insights into this whole being lied to business which is very unsettling and absolutely wrong on every level. Pathological liars trade into pathological lies and we can use a specific term "Hi Jackals" are people who hijack relationships for their own purposes and then relentlessly scavenge them for power, status and control and they lie they lie like a carpet. Pathological lies are different from those white lies which are relatively harmless and they don't come from malicious intent and they are frequent and each time it happens it causes your mind to melt a little bit like what? Really?? that doesn't make any sense but maybe you really want to believe. So you allow yourself to go down that pathway or maybe you're exhausted from not believing  and you just roll your eyes mentally and go there, they go again but those lies are frequent and then you

Your Mental Health Matters!

Hey there! I hope you all are doing fine! Maybe it's time for you all to realize that mental health matters, it is the only thing that actually matters. If you have depression, If you have anxiety, If you have a post-traumatic stress disorder, If you have any kind of mental health condition, this is not something to IGNORE. Depression, frustration, anxiety, pain, disillusion, it's just a natural part of the process of becoming a stronger version of yourself and I'm gonna tell you right now it's not easy. It will be hard because life is hard. That's what life is, it challenges you every now and then. There are ups and downs and these challenges that you face they're gonna do their best to take you down. DO NOT LET THEM. I want you to know that No matter where you're in life No matter how low you have sunk No matter how bleak your situation This is not the end of your story and this is not the final chapter. Maybe you had a bad

I’m Not Right For Every Job (And Every Job Is Not Right For Me)

              Walking away from a bad fit is not failing The nutshell version is:  I just quit 2 jobs in 5 months. The longer version is more educational. Once installed in my new role, it became (very rapidly) clear that I was simply not a good fit. The work I was creating wasn't working my employer liked, and the job centered around her approval. I wasn’t filling the needs of the company. But after some time, I realized I didn’t like the kind of environment where no matter how hard I tried, I wasn’t right. The company wasn’t meeting my needs, either. And that was a far scarier thought.  Finally, in late April, I quit my 1st job. I wasn’t happy, I wasn’t growing, and I didn’t see a huge need for my role there anymore. It was time.  I don’t know who it was harder to tell, my boss or my mother. I didn’t want to admit failure to either one. I didn’t want to admit that I’d made a bad decision. But I wasn’t telling them I failed, or that I’d gotten it wrong. I wa

Don't Chase People, Be Yourself

Stay Single and love yourself Whenever you meet someone or talk to someone , instead of telling them about your issues and problems at least ask them if they're okay or not!!! Because might be they're also in some pain but can't express to anyone due to fear of being judged wrong! They can drank to drown their pain, but the pain learned how to swim. Please ask them ~ How they are? How they've been holding up? Are they really okay!? As we are living in a world where people are ghosted more than they get texted. And these people are intelligent, creative , talented who've all experienced ghosting. If you've ever being ghosted, remember it's not a reflection of you. It is so important that we don't lead people on . It's so important that we don't make people believe that we like them or even love them if we don't. It's so dangerous to play with someone's emotions because you have no idea the damage you're causing. And

It isn't in my blood

   Depression doesn't have a face or a mood We don't talk about it as much as we talk about other diseases, but you'll be shocked to know that 300 million people worldwide are suffering from depression. Depression and bad mental health have been ignored as a serious issue since ages. But, do you know, depression can also lead to death if it gets worst?  So l et's just talk about it. Having sadness, loss of interest in every aspect of life ... basically feeling you're not good enough and not capable of establishing yourself , extreme mood swings often with bouts of crying, comfortable in being alone and not sharing your words with anyone with all of this the panic attacks are the indicators that YOU NEED SOME HELP. There can be various reasons for being depressed as it varies with every another individual. Well i can list some of them here and they're - Doing things you don't like by an forced obligation whether it's a job or studies, breakups

"Getting Better" is a daily campaign

IT'S NOT OVER UNTIL  YOU WIN Most people go after their things ladies and gentlemen half- heartedly. They don't give it all they have and then they have the nerve to be upset when things don't work out. Give yourself a chance .. give yourself a fighting chance. Whatever you go after, whatever you've said is your stuff pursue it passionately. Let there be a deep hunger in you that you won't be denied and that when things happen  they won't immobilize you, they won't deplete your energy. But you know there's something in you that's going to take you to the top and that this only a temporary inconvenience that's all it is .You got to align yourself with the strong part of you. You got to regardless of the circumstances to judge not according to appearances. You gotta be willing to go at it with everything in you pulling deep down within challenging yourself of coming back of making this happen. Stop compromising who you are for everybody else.